One of my long time friends Marcus shared this song with me the other day and I am so glad he did. First, I just love when friends share music and second, I am a hopeless romantic so this song hits home hard. This kid Spooky Black is from Minnesota and I am impressed. He is rocking that 90's turtleneck style like no ones business so thumbs up for that! I hope you enjoy this song because I have had it on repeat for the past week!
Self esteem, body image and love have been a strong themes in my life recently. Body stuff is always on my mind but I think something is finally clicking in my head concerning self love. I don't know if it is age, therapy, the people I am surrounding myself with or this recent trip to NYC to see my family that has helped this epiphany I am having.
I am learning to love myself thanks to the people who love me. I see how much I am loved. I know that me being on this earth is important. This is just a little brainstorm of something bigger that I am discovering about myself.
Today's music is actually a movie.
Runaway is a short film that Kanye West did and I think it is very beautiful. I've been listening to it all week. It reminds me of my visit home because it was kind of my soundtrack while I was there.
I hope you enjoy it. I could only find it as a vevo video so you have to copy and paste the link. http://youtu.be/Jg5wkZ-dJXA
I've been home a week now from my trip to NYC where I saw lots of family and friends. I felt surrounded by love and my city so now I am ready to take on the world. This song always reminds me of NYC and while I was home guess who I took a selfie with?? Yup! METHOD MAN!!! Enjoy the video!
A Naked Lady Soiree happened a couple of weeks ago and I want to share something that happened that night but I wanted to give a little background before I get into what happened.
I started ANLS three years ago to fill a couple of voids. I wanted to create a space for women that involved building relationships and of course, fashion. I wanted a way to meet new friends that didn't involve sitting in a bar. I also wanted to create an event for women that was labelled "body positive" because I wanted women to feel comfortable attending knowing that they could be a size 0 or a size 30.
I decided to start a clothing swap at the shop with a mission of being "body positive" because I want to create a safe space for women of all shapes and sizes who are trying clothes on in front of other women. I wanted to have a swap that held no judgements on body size or concern of anyone saying something offensive that might cause any type of discomfort. More specifically I wanted to feel safe because I have battled with self doubt and low self esteem my whole life.
I think it is safe to say that most people feel vulnerable when it comes to their body and how people perceive you body. Of course we all want to have a judgement free world but that is not the world we live in. So A Naked Lady Soiree was my answer to trying to create that world.
So this is what happened...I was standing around talking with some ladies and out of someone's mouth right next to me I hear, "Are you pregnant?" I almost fainted and died in that moment. I thought to myself, "What the fuck? Really?!?" What part of body positive did you not get? Maybe I felt triggered because two days before the swap while walking home my neighbor asked if I was pregnant. There is nothing wrong with being pregnant but only if you are pregnant. I don't think people understand how much weight that statement holds. It might be offensive or hurtful to be asked that question. I saw the life in the woman's eyes go dead when she was asked if she was pregnant and I saw her suck in her stomach in shock. I almost cried because I felt like I failed her in creating a safe space.
I immediately tried to fix the situation but I couldn't respond diplomatically. I know I reacted in a triggered manner. I said, "Please promise me that you will never, never, never ask anyone that question again, unless you have been told that they are pregnant from their mouth." I said,"You should NEVER ask anyone that question that you don't know!" Not only does it bring up body image things but it also brings up deeper things like, can this woman have a baby? Is this woman actually pregnant and was going to have an abortion.
It was hard for me to move on from what was said because I was MAD! I am writing this blog post to help me process and get over what happened. I don't know if there is any real solution to what happened but I know there is a lesson in all this from the universe. I will wait patiently for the answer while I process. Thanks for letting me share.
The weather is warming up here in the Bay and I thought this was a great song for that spring time/summer time feeling. The video reminds me of hanging with my crew when I was younger. I love the idea of going on group date! It feels so innocent and young :)
Enjoy your week!
I am so grateful for all the great press the shop is receiving. Today Oakland Local published Heading East: Part 1 and we were featured! I am so proud of the shop and for everyone who has supported us for 3 years. I stood outside today in the sun because it was so beautiful in Oakland. I closed my eyes, put my hand on my heart and absorbed the love and support that surrounds me.
At first seeing the same pose made me laugh because I thought I was being silly. I didn't see the power in the photo until I saw this video. I pretty much cried my eyes out. I hope that you enjoy the video because it's how I try to live my life.
I am Wonder Woman & I am powerful!
I love discovering new music...at least new music to me.
I've been meeting so many new people and that helps to be introduced to new things, especially music.
If we all had background music playing for us as we entered any space I would want La Luz to be playing as my intro song. I love everything about this band...all ladies, 60's nostalgia, that voice, the keyboard and guitar are some of my favorite things.
I am crossing my fingers hoping that they will return to the Bay area to play another show.
Enjoy your day and the music!
I am realizing that we are all connected as humans and we all have shared experiences. (I could go deep but I will let the song do the talking.) The universe has been sending me signs and people to remind me of this.
This is how I've been feeling lately and why not have a music video that is showing that feeling perfectly. This is my anthem this week. I hope you enjoy it :)